Dating Tips for Men
The first and most important rule is to be yourself and relax, though not too much.
Clothes
Wear something you feel comfortable in, but make an effort and dress for the occasion. Don't wear your football strip to a nice restaurant and don't get out your tux to go to the pub.
Compliments
It’s really important to compliment your date at the start of the evening and maybe once or twice during. Don’t lay it on too thick or too cheesy (a simple “you look amazing” can work wonders), and if she seems uncomfortable change the subject afterwards. Remember, even if she is a little insecure or shy, she will still want to hear that that she looks good.
Conversation
Don’t talk about ex-girlfriends and celebrities who have fantastic figures. Avoid talking too much about yourself, rather ask her questions, be attentive and respond to the things she says with interest. Your goal is to make her feel like the only woman in the room without staring at her all night which might make her uncomfortable. And remember to try to keep your gaze at around head level no matter how tempting it may be to take a quick glance south.
Establish Common Interests
Try to establish a common interest early so you can both talk with equal enthusiasm about it e.g. a country you've both visited or a hobby.
Correct Body Language
Body language is important. Don't be closed off with arms and legs folded. Look confident and relaxed, but you need to suit the environment. Be receptive to her body language. If she leans in, you should too, don't shy away because she will. If she seems guarded try to make her feel more comfortable by telling a funny story or lightening the mood. Men with manners are very sexy, but only if your natural with it. Open doors, maybe pull her chair out for her and generally be thoughtful. If you've asked her out on the first date, I'm afraid you really should pay.
Eating
If you are eating out, choose your food carefully. Don't starve yourself but gluttony is not an attractive quality on a first date. Don't eat too fast and don't order something you'll get all round your chops and spill down your clean shirt - also not attractive. Avoid Spaghetti Bolognese and garlic, onions and smelly food might impose on the end of night kiss!
Mobile Phones
Make sure your mobile phone is turned off. To send/receive text messages or calls appears rude, because it means she hasn't got your full attention.
Drinking
Don't get too drunk. Have a few drinks so you are sociable and more laid back but do not drink in excess. If she's knocking them back and then by all means join her but modesty is preferable, because first impressions are important and it's nice for a man to be on his best behaviour.
End of the Date
At the end of the date, don't be too pushy. Read the situation. A gentlemanly kiss on the cheek or lips is amicable, but if the mood takes you both a quick snog is fine. Don't imply you want sex on the first date because you don't want her to think that you only went out with her for sex! Be a gentleman. Don't move too fast as having sex on the first date is not the best way to start a relationship. And if you like her, call when you say you will!